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Waiters' top tactics to get bigger tips

Posted Oct 21 2008, 04:32 PM by Karen Datko
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Do you feel warm and fuzzy -- and more generous -- when your waiter draws a smiley face on your check? Do you feel a bond when your server engages you in chitchat? According to Richard at Student Scrooge, these are devices waiters employ to pump up the tip.

When he researched them, Richard said, "I had a whole series of flashbacks to all of these moments at the end of a meal where I undoubtedly was influenced by some of these strategies. Is tipping some sort of game of psychological warfare?"

His tipping post actually has two parts. In the first, Richard discussed a New York Times article about a San Diego restaurant owner who banned tips in favor of an 18% service charge -- just under the average tip. That charge is shared by employees, including the often-overlooked kitchen staff. (It's also fully taxed, unlike a tip.)

There's a lot of money involved in tipping, a custom long ago imported to the U.S. from Europe, where it's no longer the norm. The NYT article says:

Each year, according to the economist Ofer Azar, diners hand over some $42 billion in tips at the nation's full-service restaurants, which employ 2.6 million waiters, most of whom rely on tips for the bulk of their incomes.

Richard prefers tipping to a service charge (some of his readers wondered why restaurants don't simply pay all employees a decent wage), and, for his second post, did additional research about waiter tactics.

Among them: upselling, smiling, crouching next to the table, putting a "thank you" or smiley face on the check, touching the customer and telling a joke.

He said, "With the exception of upselling, I think most of these strategies are perfectly fair game, and I'll probably continue to respond to them on some level."

Several readers who've worked in the trade confirmed the accuracy of his observations. "Celticbuffy" said, "As a server off and on for the last 20 years I can attest that these really do work. As for upselling, I hate doing it but it works about half of the time. It can be as simple as 'Did you save any room for our scrumptious apple crisp?'"

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don't wanna hear any of it....it's a tip. it's the patron's money to begin with and if the servers have a problem with whatever amount even if they have to pay the bussers and kitchen staff that was their choice to work there no one else's. tired of hearing all of this about how people have to spend 8 hours on their feet and making little money in tips and dealing with rude customers.....guess what?? you're in customer service and it happens, don't like it? find a new trade. you control your own destiny so do something about it if you feel like people are bad tippers.....maybe you are just a bad/fake server and customers see through you.

When entertaining, I always buy breakfast and let my breakfast guest buy dinner.

I may be weird but I like for the wait staff to be cheerful and state the specials to me in detail, keep my glass full and never touch the rim of my glass or my straw with the rim of the pitcher. I am a very generous tipper if my wait staff takes care of my needs quietly and allows me to have an uninterrupted conversation with my date.

I have waited tables for a living and understand all these issues.  The one thing that really bothers me is when a server asks if I want change.  Yes, I do.  I still retain the right to tip or not.  That comment will almost guarantee a smaller tip.

I always leave a 20% tip.  Only once have I  left no tip.  My friends and I were dining at a restaurant which wasn't crowded.  The waitress actually handed the persons at the end of a rectangular table all the silverware to be passed down the table.  It took over an hour to get our meal.  She was not very friendly and we kept having to get her attention to re-fill our drinks or bring extra napkins.  That was a horror story.  I have not returned to that particular restaurant.  

To all those people who don't tip because they say "The restaraunt should pay a decent wage"--You not tipping is not going to change the amount the restaraunt pays thier employees.  The only thing that accomplishes is that the server gets upset and you look like a cheapskate and not very nice person.  The restaraunts are not going to pay a better wage because they are not required to.  Deal with it, if the service is good, tip well or don't go out at all.  

Also, try to remember if you food takes forever, it is most likely not your server's fault so please don't take it out on them.  

If you don't know how much to tip, a general rule is $2 per person if each entree costs more than $10.  $1 per person of the entree costs less than $10.  

A smiley face?  Give me a break.  What really irks me is when paying cash they say "did you need any change?"  Only extraordinary service will get 20% out of my wallet.  And I DO NOT tip on total amount, always on pre-tax amount.  

Than you Dana, you got it right!  The restaurant industry is the hospitality industry!  A friendly, helpful, efficient waitperson knows how to deliver service above and beyond.  Yes they do make less than minumum wage in payroll and their tips are what they live on since the tax man takes 100% and more of their paycheck.  If restaurants had to pay a waitperson what they were worth without relying on tips your meal would cost a lot more so and if wait people were not out to make tips would they be as caring of the service they deliver? Wait persons are not only out to deliver service, the truly great ones deliver memories that keep you returning to the restaurant!  

I have learned its 15%-20% tip when it comes to servers.  If the service is not good, just let the manager know what happened.  That way the manager can talk to the server.  Most of the time servers don't know what to do (not knowing they are supposed to ask if the customer needs water, etc.) and they are probably new.   They need to learn as they go.  Remember that if the restaurant is busy, don't take it out on the server, they are doing the best they can.   If you cannot wait for a table for 30 minutes, just go to another restaurant.

These extra tips do work. I used to work at a hooters (NO guys do not always leave big tips) as a waitress.  When it was a female customer ALWAYS right thank you and a nice smiley face on the tab. along with a come back soon!  Women seem to appreciate the sweeter side of things and trust me that worked.  With men it was always a sure thing for a big tip even if he was a total jerk or u provided OK service so long as I drew a little winking smiley face and the message "hope to see you again!".....

Before I even began working there I decided to try those techniques and compare to the other waitresses.  

There was not a single week night (monday-thursday) where I didn't reach $500+ in tips and on Weekends specially during games I never left with less than $1,700.  THAT WAS A SINGLE SHIFT not combined days.

The girls never even came close to making half the amount in tips in the entire week.  I eventually shared my strategy with a few girls and they started reaching my level on tips.  

And I know you assume its because we run around in little shorts with a buttocks and chest hanging out and men totally go for that but the BIGGEST tippers I have ever had were ALL STRAIGHT WOMEN who often came with children.

Put in a little extra effort and it pays off.  However, if you're a sour puss waitress or waiter don't even bother.  people can read through the fakeness and you'll often recieve no tip at all.

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