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Beginning to look a lot like (a glum) Christmas? Don't let it

Posted Oct 10 2008, 11:47 AM by Donna Freedman
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Some experts predict that the current economic upheaval will result in anemic holiday shopping. That's certainly what I heard from readers of the Smart Spending message board.

Most of the 100 folks who responded to a holiday spending thread say they'll scale back, sometimes way back, and pay cash. A couple of them are skipping the holidays altogether.

Personally, I don't think you need to spend a bundle to have a good holiday. At the risk of sounding impossibly corny, remember that in "A Christmas Carol," the Cratchit family had no gifts at all. A puny goose, a punier pudding and the entire family around the table made everyone happy.

Yeah, yeah, right. Just make sure there's a Wii under the tree and nobody gets hurt.

The United States has been on a collective buying spree for a decade or so. But the bills have finally come due. Our economy is writhing in agony. We're staring recession in the face, and it's just about as ugly as we imagined it might be.

So money is tight right now, or you're afraid it will be tight later. Those are good reasons to be careful. But it doesn't mean slamming the door on holiday cheer.

A few strategies
Some readers will limit gift-giving to immediate family only, or to children under 18 in the extended family. Others are drawing names rather than shopping for every shirt-tail cousin. One reader mentioned setting price limits; another said that adult family members develop "wish lists" of inexpensive presents.

Many thrifty types started shopping at last year’s post-holiday clearance sales. Others (like me) bought a number of gifts at yard sales and thrift stores. Reader "Librian" has saved $3 store vouchers from recycling ink cartridges and will use them toward calendars, mugs, coffees and other gifty items.

A few are cashing in rewards points to get gift cards. One woman is buying from the supermarket's gift card "mall" because every $50 in cards or groceries she spends qualifies her for discounted gasoline.

Many of those who responded plan a cash-only Christmas, in order to avoid heart-stopping January credit card bills. Some are wrapping coins they've saved all year. "Shadow2103" will fund her holiday with proceeds from the "Dollar Bill Challenge."

Some readers mentioned that old standby, the homemade present. I don't know about you, but I much prefer homemade jam or zucchini bread to socks and underwear.

Keeping up appearances = bad idea
If you need to trim expenses to stay afloat, then for heaven's sake trim them. Don't let others make you feel Scrooge-y. Simply explain that things are a little tight this year, and use some of the suggestions above to provide simple or symbolic gifts to the people closest to you.

Some family members and/or friends may actually be grateful to you for the suggestion. A reader posting as "Vyadron" notes that the adult children in the family are thrilled with proposed gift cutbacks, "as they are also finding it tough to make ends meet."

Those of you with kids might be reluctant to scale down, especially if previous years' holidays have been opulent. I'm afraid the best advice for you is, "Get over it." If you're in financial trouble, going deeper into debt is not the answer. Besides, little kids might not even notice that you've scaled down the gift-giving.

Older children should be let in on a dirty little family secret: Money does not grow on trees. In fact, consider bringing them into the equation. We will be OK because we are being careful with our money. Do you kids have any ideas for how we can make this holiday special?

It's possible that your offspring may shriek that their friends are getting ski trips and game systems and brand-new cars for their Christmases. But it's also possible that they will come up with some creative plans for making merry.

Giving from the heart
If you have the wherewithal to give, then do it joyously -- and thoughtfully. Folks who are having a tough time financially might appreciate presents that save them money, such as a gift card where the recipient usually shops (especially a grocery store). Or they might appreciate small luxuries they can't afford, like theater tickets or a gift certificate to a nice restaurant.

Remember that charities, food banks and social service agencies are feeling the impact of national economic woes, too. Consider providing gifts, food items or a cash contribution to these organizations instead of giving presents to those who already have enough stuff.

I don't believe it's my job, or yours, to overspend in order to prop up the economy. That said, I urge everyone who normally celebrates the December holidays not to skip it this year.

Scale down, sure. Get creative, definitely. But don't forgo a ritual that has the potential to make you really happy if you do it right.

 

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This year, I've decided to work my way through my yarn stash and make it a hand knit christmas.  Since my spouse lost his job and this will most likely require us to move out of the country early in the new year, we've just asked family to give us gift cards for restaurants so it can be something that we will enjoy together and won't require us to downsize when we do move.

We are going to focus on the "trimmings" this year, instead of the gifts. My kids might each get one big gift and a few small ones, but we'll make some ornaments, and cookies and we can get a nice tree and greenery from a tree farm. I'm going to focus more on setting a pleasant tone, rather than letting them know how tight money is. I think that when they remember this, it'll be the music, and making/baking things than the few gifts they'll outgrow in a years time.

I'm a single mom with no child support, and both kids' birthdays are also in December, so I want a nice Christmas, but I will not be going overboard.

Funny this is brought up... my wife and I have been thinking a lot about how much we can afford under the current circumstances.

Here's our strategy:

SAVE RIGHT NOW! There is no way we or anybody else can afford to put Christmas on a credit card. Scale back a little bit and start scaling back NOW, so you can afford to pay for Christmas with cash. I don't believe you have to approach it like the Cratchit family from "A Christmas Carol." We all love good food, sweets, and gifts! Who doesn't?!

But then again, if you can't afford it, you can't afford it.

Here's our strategy:

www.financialnut.com/83_days_christmas_ready

I have never put Christmas on a credit card.  I always pay cash, make a budget and most of the time come under, and I spread out the cost over a few months.  I am a single mom who buys for about 11 people.  I buy really nice gifts and spend around $600 total.  The key is to bargain shop, and I think of creative gifts that look extravagent but are not.  

I've been putting $20 a week a in  an envelope along with any singles laying around. I've also been buying small things as a I go. Our holiday was very thin last year b/c a lot of unexpected expenses, and I'd like this year to be cheerier.

We celebrate Chanukah. Like most families that do, we give the kids one big gift and seven smaller ones (It's an eight night holiday.) Traditionally,  we give one biggish fun gift, one spiritual gift, one gift of something they need (this year it will be new comforters), and one family activity-type gift. I also try to do a totchke night where they get little doo-dads we've picked up at various places through the year (e.g., a shell from the beach or  a bouncy ball from an amusement park).

For extended family, we gift up and down but not horizontally (i.e., parents, grandparents nieces and nephews, but not cousins).

I too will be cutting back on some Christmas spending.  My husband and I will be purchasing our first home  shortly and money will be tight this year.  I bargain shop (black friday) and I also like to do some extra crafts to add to smaller gifts.  Like a gift card and a homemade tray of cookies or breads.  We also do a Christmas wish list for the adults in our family everyone picks a name from a hat.   Also This year I will be buying clothes for my nieces and nephews, I think this will help since the parents are low on cash too and the kids new some new clothes.

I bought most of my gifts at last year sales. My oldest kids always pretty much want the same each year so I buy it ahead and store it up and then they also get some cash for a gift. They learned a long time ago they'd rather go shopping the day after and hit the sales where they can get more for their $. I also recently went to a silent auction where I was able to buy some gift cards for 1/2 their value. I also bought the sales last year for my co-workers. The only person I have left to buy for is my 10 year old son. He is getting a Wii but only because of "HORRIBLE" customer service I had at a retail store and them losing part of one of my electronic parts, they compensated me with a $300 gift card. Otherwise he wouldn't be getting a Wii

If you ask my kids (ages 16 and 14) what they like best about Christmas they will tell you the traditions.  Putting up the tree, making cookies, watching Christmas shows on tv as a family, going to 11 p.m. service, driving around looking at the Christmas lights.  Having the same cousins come over every Christmas day.  Remember the Christmas it snowed and we all went sledding?  The Christmas we all played poker and Daddy wore his sunglasses?

They won't be able to tell you what they got for Christmas.  They remember the fun times.

I started cutting back a year ago.  We have money limits on all family gifts that we strictly adhere to.  We do $10 stocking suffers for adult children- ie my brothers and sisters and I and $30 per niece/nephew.  Restraint is key during the holidays and I started shopping last year and slowly am building my gift closet up.

I always pay cash for Christmas gifts, and stick to my budget.  I got laid off from my retail job mid-year, and have only been able to find part-time work, so this year the budget is much lower.  I realized this earlier in the year (in summer), so I have been buying items whenever I find bargain-basement sale prices and stashing them for Christmas gifts.  Consequently, my holiday shopping is almost done, and it's only October!  Also, I love baking so I will give made-from-scratch goodies like fudge and cookies -- I found beautiful holiday cookie tins at a ridiculously low price last January at Walgreens and stocked up, so they will make a gorgeous presentation.  Thoughtful gifts do not have to cost a fortune!  But it really helps to plan in advance and keep your eyes peeled for bargains throughout the year.

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