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We wish happiness (and kinder critics) for MP Dunleavey

Posted Jun 17 2008, 02:19 PM by Karen Datko
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Here's a little snapshot of reality we never thought we'd see: MP Dunleavey owns fewer pairs of jeans than we do. (She has one; we have two.)

That factlet about the often loved, sometimes maligned New York Times and MSN Money personal-finance writer was contained in an e-mail interview she did with U.S. News & World Report. We've been among those who have sometimes wondered about MP's spending choices, particularly when she bought a larger house, but that wardrobe confession compelled us to give her another look.

The subject of the interview was MP's book, "Money Can Buy Happiness." In it, she says that spending choices tied to quality of life issues -- relationships, good health, creativity -- can bring you joy. She also writes about the "60% solution" -- spending that portion of your income on the necessities of daily living, and allocating the rest for savings, emergency funds and fun.

The research for the book caused her to change her spending habits, she said in the interview.

Case in point -- and this is just one of many examples: I have one pair of jeans. One. I know people with 12 or 20. It's not that I don't shop. I do. I think I'm an L.L.Bean Preferred Customer. But writing this book taught me something my grandmothers knew: You only have so much. Make sure you spend on what you really want, what you really need, what truly matters.

Spending that spawns happiness -- tied with a reasonable savings plan -- sounds like good advice. But we doubt it will satisfy her critics. In our perusing of the PF blogosphere, we've rarely see the level of vitriol that's directed at MP.

In a post called "M.P. Dunleavey is going medieval on her debt (finally)," "Boston Gal" (and her commenters) bashed MP's recent decision to put retirement and personal savings on hold in order to pay off her remaining consumer debt. "LivingAlmostLarge" further dissected the issue at her blog. "Life always happens and justifying cutting her retirement savings to pay off debt is stupid. ... She should be cutting her lifestyle," LivingAlmostLarge opined.

Tough talk, but we suspect MP can handle it. She also told U.S. News & World Report:

No one is perfect, especially when it comes to finances. And that's OK. It would be better if we had more freedom in that regard, less fear of censure, so we could talk to one another about what we earn, what we spend, what's a reasonable way to live. That's the only way to make financial progress.

We have to agree with Jim of My Debt Blog, who responded to snarky comments made about MP at LivingAlmostLarge: "I don't worry about what everyone else does. Why you can't wait for them to fail because you don't agree with what they're doing I don't understand."

Comments

 

Buying more jeans would have been smarter.  Heck, buying 50 pairs of jeans would have been better than an impulse house buy.

If she can't hack the criticism that comes with being the NYT's financial expert, then she should go back to MSN.  There are so many success stories (trans: much more competent people) that would have been more inspiring in that NYT gig.  I am just sick of her whining about things that she brought on herself.

MP's financial choices are sometimes not good.  I guess she fits the "status quo" of America...lack of saving due to poor choices.  This woman could potentially be in a better financial state but her choices continue her down the road of Debt.  If MP has a book out, where's Boston Gals book? BG is a better role model in this sinking economy world with her focus on saving, thrift, and hard working goals.  

Dunleavey is the Platonic ideal of entitled, over-spent Americans. She makes ridiculous financial decisions, acts mystified when those ridiculous financial decisions don't work out, and then rationalizes those bone-headed, completely irresponsible decisions as "everyone makes mistakes".

Yes, everyone makes mistakes. But not everyone acts like a 12-year-old when it comes to their family's money and providing for their children.

I find MP's articles easy to read, understand and therefore am able to learn some things.   Since it's my choice (no mandatory assignment) I can just glance over Jim Jubak's writings and say hmmm

Hmmm I have one pair of jeans too...and about 10 pairs of dress pants.  I can tell you which style cost more and it's not the jeans.

As Alicia said above, if you think you can do better, write your own blog.  DW and I have been through all this, including college in our 30's, bought a house in our 40's(we couldn't afford it), raised two sons, all by doing a lot of the things MP suggests.  We are well on our way to a secure retirement by following one rule: USE COMMON SENSE.  Make choices based on common sense, appropriate to your situation and when things don't work out (it's certain they won't, always) adjust and move on.  Also, don't forget to have fun along the way.

My question to those who criticize MP's decision to buy another house: Would you have questioned that decision two years ago?

I have been reading MP's "Women in Red" series for a couple years and I really like it.  She writes well and she's given me a few good tips.  The ugly criticism is just a nasty side effect of the perceived "anonymity" of the internet.  If people were required to say such things to a person's face, they never would.  It's an unfortunate part of internet blogging, but it is easily ignored.

Nobody gives a crap about MP Dunleavey except her friends and family.  

It's one thing to trip through life and make mistake after mistake through ignorance. But it is another to be well-versed on what it takes to prosper and still not do it.  In MP's case, it is akin to having a 500 pound person tell you to eat the proper foods and get your exercise for optimum health.  Do as I say, not as I do.  When me and my wife were in our 20s and just starting off, (much as MP is doing in her 40s) we bit the bullet and lived very, very frugally scraping up a down payment for a home, working out a budget that allowed for us to save a little bit, taking one-day "vacations" to have a picnic on the beach, and finding ways to increase our income.  What we didn't do was buy one house and then go out and buy another stretching our budget that much more.  Now, after celebrating our 25th anniversary, we are well placed to retire in a decade, live in a paid-off house (which just increases our cash-flow) and can easily afford to pay cash to travel once a year to England, France and other locations we've always wanted to visit.  Oh, and I own twice as many jeans as MP....two! But I can afford those! Years ago, someone told me if I wanted to get ahead in life, look at what the poor people do, and do the opposite! Perhaps MP could benefit from that advice too.

In case anyone wonders what's wrong with society, here's an example if I ever saw one: financial writer gets slammed for making personal decisions with HER money. She is a very talented writer and her frank openess is to be admired. Many of us read these blogs and articles looking for ideas and inspiration--not a money Bible. If everyone would just mind their own business (and wallets) we'd all be better off. If you get fried by the personal life choices of others you've never even met, you need to get a life of your own.

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