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The complete guide to planning an affordable wedding

Posted Jun 12 2008, 08:11 PM by Karen Datko
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Flying ants swarmed at Jill's rehearsal dinner, the nearby military range tested its big guns during the wedding, and then cousin Taylor fainted and hit his head on the house, requiring a trip to the hospital. Then, during the reception, the town's power went out.

What does this have to do with frugal wedding planning? Well, nothing, really (although Jill's post at Naturally Gluten Free does include some cost-cutting tips). But it's part of the fun reading in what we promise will be the last word on this subject. (OK, we're probably lying.) No fewer than 33 personal-finance bloggers and readers submitted entries to Pinyo's "Best wedding tips and stories giveaway" at Moolanomy.

Our readers clamor for more information about smart spending on weddings. We think you'll find it here. Some of the posts are short and to the point, and others are very detailed, like Pamela Munro's DIY wedding at home.

We'll mention a few that tickled our fancy. Reader "CarolBEE" said a wedding Web site is essential for posting everything from directions to the ceremony to embarrassing baby photos of your fiance. She writes: "When I was engaged to Don, I talked to his mother and got the cutest baby picture of him. He was dressed up in a Tarzan outfit." Very cute.

We like the perspective of "Mrs. Cents" at Our Comment Cents: The only things you really need are the license and someone to conduct the ceremony. "Total cost: less than $100 for a civil ceremony. Everything else is just gravy," she says. Another good tip: Be realistic about the guest list. You don't want to spend your reception talking to hundreds of people you don't know.

Reader Nancy saved money by having her wedding right after the Christmas service at her church. "FFB" at Free From Broke said he also saved money on the venue by picking an unconventional day -- in his case, Dec. 30, the day before New Year's Eve.

Beth Kimber recommends a Las Vegas wedding. She says, "I said I wouldn't do it, I said it was tacky, I said it was cut-rate. I was wrong ...."

Reader Kelly advised against buying supplies from the wedding section in the store. Kelly says, "If 'bridal' or 'wedding' is in the name of the product, they automatically raise the price."

Comments

 

Wow!  I'm really new to blogging so I'm pretty excited that my blog and my wedding post have been mentioned in this article!

I think that weddings are so overrated.  The focus should be on the fact that two individuals are spending the rest of their lives together.  I love weddings, but I think people spend way too much money on them, when they could be using it to buy their first house or pay off debt.  I am all for eloping!

I think too many people put too much effort in having the perfect wedding and not the marriage.  If some people would put in just half the effort into their marriage as they put into the wedding, there would probably be less divorces.  I have a friend that was so focused on having the perfect wedding that she ignored red flag after red flag.  Now less than 2 years after her perfect wedding, they are getting divorced and she is working 2 jobs to pay off that perfect wedding, not to mention the debt he accumulated in their short marriage.

I heard a great quote a long time ago, "People plan the wedding and don't plan the marriage"; and it is so very true...

I agree with those who state "plan the marriage, not the wedding."

Not many people can actually afford really expensive weddings so why add the extra financial stress to the new marriage?

I remember asking once, why such a big wedding? The answer? It is all about the party. I wonder if those two are still married?

My fiancee and I are getting married in Sept. and she was worried about not appearing "fancy" enough due to our budget constraints.  I told her that a lot of the relatives will be out in the parking lot smoking and drinking at the reception, so why spend all that money so people can stand around and smoke in the parking lot?

I've been to a bunch of weddings where the couple spent a lot but we walked out feeling blah.  It's not about the costs or the venue or how many flowers you have.  It's about the genuine feeling you get from the two people getting married.  I've heard horror stories about couples that were so nervous they couldn't enjoy their wedding.  What's important is that you have fun!  We're there to see two people joined together and to help them celebrate.  

Yeah! Jill!

Thanks for the mention of my DIY wedding post! The effort just made it special - and altho some work - it was fun! Nothing like a $25,000 wedding -but we are not that type, anyway & we didn't have to go into hock for it, either!  I am just a frugal person - You might be interested in checking out my frugal blog at www.myfrugallife.com/blog_pamphyila.html -  I am currently writing a book on stylish frugality and would love any comments on what you all would like to see in such a book!  Thanks again. - pam munro

Thanks for mentioning my article! The wedding industry in general has become a money motivated cash cow. Time to fight back people - you don't NEED to spend your retirement savings on a party.

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