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Gifts for those who don't need 'stuff'

Posted Dec 19 2007, 11:35 AM by Donna Freedman
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This post comes from Abby Freedman, a freelance writer and daughter of Smart Spending blogger Donna Freedman.

The holidays mean joy and giving -- and garbage.

This isn't social commentary on commercialism -- I literally mean garbage. Think about the post-Christmas morning battlefield that was once your living-room floor: ripped, shredded wrapping paper and ribbon and toy boxes, waiting to be thrown in the trash.

Add to that all those "they meant well" gifts, and you have, well, waste. Household garbage levels increase 25 percent in the weeks between Thanksgiving and New Year’s, according to an MSN article.

So why not give experiences instead of stuff? Experiences don’t have to be wrapped. They don’t come in big boxes with lots of rigid foam. They aren’t likely to get tossed or regifted.

They even pass the Liz Pulliam Weston test: They aren't gift cards!

And for Aunt Edna, a water buffalo
Heifer International is a group dedicated to sustainable food and income sources for the poor in many countries of the world.

For as little as $10, you can fund anything from bees to trees in the country of your choice. Admit it: Haven't you always wanted to get someone's goat?

Or suppose someone on your list needs a creative outlet. Offer to pay for and also possibly take a class with that person. Cooking would promote health and frugality. Classes in pottery, knitting, sewing, crocheting or woodworking could pay off in the ability to make gifts next year. Self-defense classes are practical and great for stress. And dance classes are just fun.

Almost everyone loves movies, and almost everyone complains about ticket prices. Such folks clearly need movie gift cards. (Sorry, Liz, but it really isn't the same thing as a Target gift card.) Or buy concession stand gift cards so they can indulge in an overpriced drink and some Dots.

Speaking of movie fans, how about a gift subscription for either Blockbuster Total Access or Netflix? You can get a one-month, unlimited-rental subscription for as little as $8.99. For the avid gamer in your life, buy a short-term subscription to GameFly, which is considerably cheaper than buying even one video game, and allows the user to try a variety of titles.

Not every subscription is a good idea. For the crafty folks on your list, all hobby magazines are not created equal. A recipient could be bored by easy projects or frustrated by difficult/expensive ones.  So don't order just any title -- get one you know the crafter wants, or one recommended by someone with similar taste and skill level.

Rubbed the right way
Some spas and massage therapy clinics may offer holiday specials. Others offer discounts if you buy in bulk. One local spa, Eastside Oasis, offers 10 massages for $500; they normally cost $70 to $80 each.

You could go in with a few other people and present this as a joint gift -- or divvy up the massages among yourselves.

Hard as it may be to imagine, some people don't like massages. For these folks, a gift certificate from a company like Spa Wish would be a good bet. Your recipient can then choose the participating day spa at which to redeem the certificate, whether for a sea-salt scrub or a high-end pedicure.

Giving of yourself
Maybe you, like me, are on a limited income. Or maybe you have financial goals that restrict your gift budget. Time to roll out an old favorite: Coupons!

Historically cheesy ("Good for one hug"), these can have a fun, modern spin. Suppose your coupons offered to pay for services such as:

  • "Four computer defrags and virus scans"
  • "One afternoon spent organizing your photos"
  • "One scrapbook album, fully decorated"
  • "One evening of baby sitting"
  • "One day spent cooking and freezing meals"
  • "One day of housecleaning"
  • "Complete reorganization of your kitchen cupboards"
  • "One house call to help you program your TiVo"

Or how about this: Volunteer your time for their pet projects/causes. Depending on your gift list, some limits might need to be set up front. Otherwise you, a flaming liberal, wind up manning a Republican bake sale. Ho, ho, no!

Comments

 

Does anyone have ideas for kids that won't add to their endless piles of toys and forgotten stuff.  I have 6 nieces and nephews that are very spoiled and I'm not sure they even know what charity is.  I try to give them things they need or books or things that encourage savings.  I guess I'm afraid to give them a Heifer Project goat and be considered the "un-cool" aunt.   I do enjoy spending time with them but I work a very odd and heavy schedule so I don't have a lot of free time.  Any ideas?

There is a new movie coming out for Christmas, in which a single gal says "all I want for Christmas is a compliment from some stranger...no strings attached".  I thought about it and have decided that at our Christmas Dinner the 12 of us (ages 10-51)would pull a name/card out of a hat and whomever they get, they would write a compliment about that family member...something that they admire most about that person.  Every person will have a day ahead to think about/write it then we will each read our card aloud at Christmas dinner.. I think this is a lovely way to bond and commemorate the family reunion...and just feel good about being part of a loving family.  I'd love to hear what others think....

On a card, have  the  person write their name and a list of  gift ideas they woujld really like, then have the family mebers each draw out a card without  letting anyone know whose they got. That way  they only have one gift to buy and each person gets a gift from their name/gift list.

One year, we agreed to donate our gift amount to our favorite charity and then at our gathering,tell what one we donated to and why we selected it.We did buy gifts for chldren under a certain  age, one gift from each person to that chlild so if 5 adult couples gave a gift  each  chld got 5 presents and we limited the  amount to be spent as some were working couples paying on houses and could not afford a lot on presents. the children went in together to get us, their mom and dad a gift which was also a savings and we gave them choices,i.e. resturant,movie,subscriptions,etc.The eveing concluded with the host reading the Christmas story -of course this was at our family gathering. Don't forget to put some money in an envelope for your newspaper carriers (we have 4).We make sure the Lord is the focus of our giving as He gave

us eternal life to "whosoever will).....

I love the no stuff gifts! I live in the Pacific Northwest, which is never lacking for outdoor activities, and for my dad's birthday this year, I took him on a riverrafting trip. We hadn't been for years and it was so much fun. Instead of creating waste, we made a memory. My mom later told me that my dad was really touched because it was not only fun, but time we got to spend a whole day together. My mom and I also travel together and everywhere we go, we each pick one thing that we think the other would love and plan it as a surprise/ present (on our last trip to Greece, I booked a day cruise for us, she booked a dinner at a fabulous restaurant). The memories of that are far more important and vivid than some silly object! Besides, it is nice to spread gifts thoughtout the year too.

The legend of Saint Nicholas originally talked about his giving to those who had not, not to those who already have. This giving season is meant to give to those who otherwise would be forgotten. It was not a control tool to use against "bad" children who would get a lump of coal.

In the United States, it should be thought of as immoral to have even one person sleeping in the freezing cold or a child going hungry. This situation exists all year long, not just at Christmas. Giving dented cans to a poor family will not be much help if they dont have a place out of the cold to sleep and clean up in. Giving a frozen turkey will not help if the electricity costs are too high.

I would like to see Habitat homes available that have energy-saving features (plumbing that uses rainwater, solar panels, etc.) and optimally are off the coal-powered NRG grid. We need to get to a point where we move beyond gestures and symbolic giving to actually demonstating that we are creatures moving towards some sort of spiritual evolution.

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I think that the point is, give something the other person would enjoy, regardless of price, size, etc.

Stamps!  I have an elderly aunt who's home  is overflowing with stuff and she truly needs nothing.  However, she is from that generation that writes notes, pays her bills by mail, etc.

So...  USPS to the rescue. Commemorative stamps are fun to shop for and useful. Designs are so varied that I am able to chose those that are reflective of her interests and tastes.  You can spend as little or much as you like since you're buying in increments.  If shopping time is limited, you just have to go on line and they will be sent for $1.00 service fee.

My aunt was thrilled... looks forward to a packet on her birthdays and Christmas  and has started gifting stamps to HER friends as well.  

I have given my mother "daughter-certificates" for years, not just for Christmas but her birthday and Mothers Day too.  She loves them!  It was originally my dad's idea when I was a kid, and I've just kept it going.

Regarding tipping servers (restaurant), many servers total income depends on their tips.  At the restaurant where I work, the servers typically receive a paycheck for $00 as once they claim their tips the hourly amount they earn goes to taxes, soc. sec. etc.  So, please be generous to those who serve you.  If the food is poorly prepared remember they did not prepare it.  Complain to the owner/manager, don't take it out on your server.  If you can afford to eat out, you can afford a tip.

WHY? I work two jobs in fast food chains to make a living. No one tips me. But when I go to a cheap restraurant for a meal -(once a year) I am expected to pay 15-20% to server. If they do not get paid - they should not take those jobs.  I do not have five hundred dollars to tip everyone during holiday season - so I have to live with substandard services for whole year.    

Do not depend on the handouts - earn a wage and be proud.

Agee with the comment that Service Coupons are a bad idea.  My spouse gave me a 12 item coupon last year.  Each month I could get one 'service'. Seemed like a really caring gift, till I tried to collect on the first one.  My request turned into a fight that wasn't worth the effort.   I threw the thing away.  Never did get any of the 'services'.  

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