How to develop the habit of spending less than you make
Posted
Nov 28 2007, 12:01 PM
by
Karen Datko
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This post comes from partner blog The Dough Roller.
If I could write just one thing about achieving financial freedom, it would be this: Spend less than you make.
Like all habits that lead to financial freedom, spending less than you make is simple to understand, but hard to follow. For some reason, we always want more. At times in my life I've made very little, and other times I've made a lot, but at all times I've wanted just a wee bit more. I find it just as difficult to live below my means today as I did 15 years ago making about one-third of what I make today.
The problem isn't about how much we make. We are the problem. This is critical to understand because until you identify the problem, you can't fix it. If you think the problem is your income, you'll spend your energy trying to make more money. While there is obviously nothing wrong with making more money, I speak from experience when I say that making more money will not make spending less than you make any easier.
So what will?
Before I attempt to answer that question, a word of caution: Spending less than you make is the single most important financial habit to develop. And as fate would have, it also is the hardest. Consistently living below your means is the hardest thing to do in the world of personal finance. As they say, if it were easy, everybody would do it. However, like any habit, once you consistently spend less than you make, it gets easier. And with some determination, you can do it. So here are some tips to develop the habit of spending less than you make:
Distinguish between your wants and your needs. Let's make this simple. Basic food, shelter and clothing represent your needs; everything else is a want. We've convinced ourselves that two cars, cable TV and eating out three times a week are, if not strictly speaking a need, essential to our way of living. They certainly have become standard for many in America. So has spending more than we make. I told you this wasn't easy. To really distinguish between wants and needs, take a look at an article I wrote called "The Doomsday Fund: How planning for the worst prepares you for the best." Imagining what you'd do in a real, sustained financial crisis will help sort out the needs from the wants.
Understand what truly brings meaning to your life. When I was a teenager, my family didn't have much money. (You can read about my childhood in "What a financially painful childhood can teach you about money.") At one point our TV broke, and my parents couldn't afford to get it fixed or replaced. Oh, the misery. I literally went through withdrawal symptoms for a week. I didn't know what to do with myself. But after that first week without a TV, I didn't miss it at all. I spent more time reading or outside and went to bed earlier. I ate less junk food, too. What I thought was so important in my life turned out not to be that important after all. We went a year without a TV, and why we eventually replaced it I'll never know. Living below your means is not just about distinguishing between wants and needs. It's also about distinguishing between wants that really bring us fulfillment, and those that don't. Know the difference and you'll spend less money.
Use trial periods to evaluate "what ifs." What if you didn't have a TV? What if you didn't have a second (or third) car? What if you ate out just once a week? What if you took your lunch to work every day? I'm a big fan of the trial period. Go without TV for a week or (God forbid!) a month to see if you really miss it. If it turns out that TV is not as important to you as you once believed, cancel the cable and sell the TV. Or don't use your second car for a week. This will undoubtedly be inconvenient for many, if not most, of us, but is the second car really worth the payment, gas, insurance and repair bills? Trial periods are a great way to figure out what works for you, and they can be an effective way to convince a spouse to give something a try.
Learn how to fight with your spouse over money. If you share your finances with somebody, how they spend money is as important as how you spend money. Working together is critical. If you're having some difficulty seeing eye to eye on money, maybe you need to learn how to fight with your spouse over money.
Focus on your weaknesses. We all have spending weaknesses. For many it's eating out or impulse buying. Whatever your weakness is, you need to identify it and address it. Most monthly expenses fall into categories that don't need to be monitored. They are either fixed expenses like the mortgage payment, or they are for something that's not causing you to spend more than you make, like the heating bill. Focus your effort and energy on those areas that are out of control.
Make mountains out of a molehills. In finances, everything counts, even the small stuff. One of the biggest mistakes made is ignoring the small expenses. This is one of the reasons I've started the “Buying the B share” campaign here at The Dough Roller. Small expenses (or income) will add up to substantial sums given enough time. You don't want to ignore the big expenses, to be sure, but keep an eye on the small expenses, too.
Get radical. If credit cards are causing the problem, either get rid of them or give them to somebody you trust to hold them for you. You need to remove temptation from your life. What matters most is results. Self-discipline and control will come later.
In two follow-up articles, I'll look at practical tips to lower your spending and some tools and resources to help you along the way. Until then, if you've tried other approaches to controlling your spending, please leave a comment so that we can all benefit from what's worked for you.
Other articles of interest at The Dough Roller:
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Inflation’s bleak prospects ... in 1978" "Don’t steal from St. Peter"
"Raising Quicken kids"
