Search Smart Spending:

'Room to breathe has no price tag'

Posted Nov 14 2007, 01:01 PM by Donna Freedman
Rating:

A month ago today, I became debt-free – made the last payment to a relative who had lent me some money. This loan had allowed me to throw a big chunk of cash against credit card debt accrued during divorce proceedings. (Lawyers bill by the hour, you know.)

Once the credit card was paid in full, I started repaying the family loan. As money came in through diligence or chance, I’d let it build to $300 and then write a check. I'm not sure why $300 became the magic number; it just sounded good.

Now I'm debt-free: no student loans (I'm blessed with a scholarship), no car payment (please let it last another six or seven years), no credit card debt (and there won't be any more).

It feels about how you'd think it would: pretty darned great.

'A perpetual grin'
This relative wasn’t dunning me. But it bothered me to owe money. Some people count sheep; at night I would lie in bed counting ways to stretch available funds to reach the next $300.

Reading some postings from a Smart Spending message board thread, I found others who have recently come to share this worldview.

A reader posting as "luba30" changed her life in just six months. "I had no savings, no budget, no retirement, living paycheck to paycheck," she wrote.

So she created a realistic budget that prioritizes retirement funding and a savings account, while allowing for some discretionary spending for her and her husband. Currently they have more than $2,500 in retirement funds and thousands more in savings. And luba30 has "a perpetual grin."

Another reader, "Pepperdoo," hit the wall seven months ago. It happened when she paid a few bills -- not all of them -- and realized she and her husband had $25 left. For two weeks.

Pepperdoo started keeping track of every penny spent. She and her husband packed lunches and ate all other meals at home, allowing themselves $40 for groceries every week. Pepperdoo also combed the Smart Spending message board for tips on economizing, and threw whatever she saved at vehicle loans. Their car and truck are now paid off and the "extra" $500 per month goes into savings.

"Room to breathe has no price tag," Pepperdoo wrote. "It's hard to make the changes at first, but once you do you'll see results."

The choices we make
Without that family loan, I still would have paid off my credit card debt, eventually. But I would likely have paid several hundred dollars in interest charges. I also would have fretted, a lot.

Now it's my job to continue to live below my means. Not only will that keep me out of debt, it will allow me to put aside some money. I'm building an emergency fund, and recently started a Roth IRA to augment the retirement benefits I accrued during 17 years of newspapering. And some day I'd like to have mortgage debt like everybody else.

My efforts are neither unique nor remarkable. Plenty of people out there have been standing up under much heavier debt loads. A reader named "Kalikala1980" is paying down a credit card balance, a car note and a grad-school loan. To get there sooner, the reader has cut back on all unnecessary spending, while still faithfully funding a retirement account.

"It's all about the choices you make and how much you want to be debt-free," Kalikala wrote.

So if you're working to pay down debt, keep at it. If you backslide, start over. And if you think you'll never get out of debt? Please try it anyway. Get personal-finance books from the library, contact the National Foundation for Credit Counseling,  read the MSN Money message boards for tips and support.

Kalikala phrased it quite nicely: "While paying off debt is painful, the freedom of being debt-free is indeed priceless."

As we say in New Jersey, I'll testify to that in court.

Comments

 

We still have a student loan and a mortgage ... but have no consumer or credit card debt.  It feels really good to be in control of our money rather than our money controlling us.  We have even built up an emergency fund ... which came in handy last night when our water heater bit the dust.  We would have been taking cold showers this morning if we wouldn't had that money stashed away.  It took us almost 20 years to straighten out our bad financial habits and pay off all our debt.  I guess we  were slow learners ... but, better late than never :)

My husband and I are also trying to become debt free.  We are following Dave Ramsey's advice...even your mortgage can be paid in full!!  You do not have to have a "mortgage debt like everyone else"!  That is what society has led us to think.  You should try to get out of that mode.  We are working hard towards our goal of being debt free--including our mortgage and we DO sleep better at night.  Even though we are not quite finished; we have the comfort of knowing that if one of us would lose our jobs or get hurt and couldn't work, we'd still be good.  That is what allows us to sleep at night!  Congratulations on getting to this point!  and the same to rest of the commenters that are working just as hard!!

I'm tired of not being able to pay the bills every month.  I would like to put away money in savings and pay off our credit cards.  It seems that every payday there is an extra bill that has to be paid.  I would appreciate any money tips. Alisa

I have made it on my own. My youngest in collage. I am making any student loans for her while she is in school. A mortgage that will be paid in 4 years, and know other debt at the age of 51. Oh, and $200,000 dollars in a 401 K all on an hourly salery and no spouse. 5 years from now the party begins

My husband is the sole breadwinner and we have 5 chidren - 3 of them teenagers.  I'm struggling (and even that is an understatement!) to pay the bills, but all these comments and your blog is providing me with great motivation. I want to cut the cards when I'm done, that's my goal.  I just want to have savings for a rainy day and not live from paycheck to paycheck all my life!  The interests is only of great interest to the banks and it is clearly in my interest to have anything to do with it.  I hope to come back on a more positive note the next time around.  Its an uphill struggle!

Young people don't seem to understand debt, credit, school  loans or how much it really costs in 2007 to live "middle class". It is hard to wake up one day and realize it is just you -- and nobody is going to take care of your debt unless you do it yourself.

I came back after finishing school, living in Europe for a while and working all the whole time --to substantial debt. I think the nights spent laying awake about my situation were well deserved. I moved out of my home, put everything in storage and stayed with a girlfriend for 9 months and put the majority of my paycheck toward the debt. Today, I do not owe anything and it does feel priceless!

A lean year spent achieving the goal in mind is worth more than any trip, pair of shoes, or dinner out. It is brutal to eat the same darn sandwich or macaroni every day but it pays off --sooner than you might imagine.

I am blessed to own my home, my cars, and to have my retirement secure.  I turn 50 this month and I no longer need to work for money. One great lesson that I learned along the way and that I hear in your blog is that the only truly rich man is the man who has decided that he needs less than he has.  For much of my life I always chased more of everything and despite a lot of things, never felt comfortable. Many people with much more money and things than all of us are caught in the trap of seeking more. You have found the secret.  Enjoy what you have and make smart decisions with the extra.  That is the secret behind your smile.......and mine.  

Debt free, it's only a dream for me, I started out 32 yrs ago with nothing, and nothing inherited, never will have. I have helped friends and family, church, strangers, in excess of $200,000 in the last 32 years. I feel good about that. Now raising a family of 4, at 50 I am willing to work another 20 years if the Lord will let me,

then I may think about me a little more, but until then, too many people who have it worse than me....my reward is in Heaven, not saved up here on earth....

Po Boy I have no sympathy for someone with $100,000 in schools loans. My daughter got excepted to an number of $40,000+ a year schools that she would have loved to attend, but settled for one at 27.000. She has only had to borrow 10 k her first year, is working part time during school and full time during shcool breaks. She is making payments while in school that she doesn't have to. Talk about responsible. I am also making payments while she is in school that she doesn't know about. Her collage graduation present is going to find out she is almost dept free.  

Think long and hard about going in debt for a house. Maybe you could buy a rural lot and

" pay as you go". Here in S. Ohio you can buy lots or old houses at the sheriff's sale for between 5K-15k. That would give you a lot with sewage, electric and water tap. That would be your starting point.

Send a Comment

Comments must be directly related to the blog entry. Comments with offensive language will be deleted. Your e-mail address won't be displayed.

(please, no HTML tags. Web addresses will be hyperlinked):