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'Room to breathe has no price tag'

Posted Nov 14 2007, 01:01 PM by Donna Freedman
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A month ago today, I became debt-free – made the last payment to a relative who had lent me some money. This loan had allowed me to throw a big chunk of cash against credit card debt accrued during divorce proceedings. (Lawyers bill by the hour, you know.)

Once the credit card was paid in full, I started repaying the family loan. As money came in through diligence or chance, I’d let it build to $300 and then write a check. I'm not sure why $300 became the magic number; it just sounded good.

Now I'm debt-free: no student loans (I'm blessed with a scholarship), no car payment (please let it last another six or seven years), no credit card debt (and there won't be any more).

It feels about how you'd think it would: pretty darned great.

'A perpetual grin'
This relative wasn’t dunning me. But it bothered me to owe money. Some people count sheep; at night I would lie in bed counting ways to stretch available funds to reach the next $300.

Reading some postings from a Smart Spending message board thread, I found others who have recently come to share this worldview.

A reader posting as "luba30" changed her life in just six months. "I had no savings, no budget, no retirement, living paycheck to paycheck," she wrote.

So she created a realistic budget that prioritizes retirement funding and a savings account, while allowing for some discretionary spending for her and her husband. Currently they have more than $2,500 in retirement funds and thousands more in savings. And luba30 has "a perpetual grin."

Another reader, "Pepperdoo," hit the wall seven months ago. It happened when she paid a few bills -- not all of them -- and realized she and her husband had $25 left. For two weeks.

Pepperdoo started keeping track of every penny spent. She and her husband packed lunches and ate all other meals at home, allowing themselves $40 for groceries every week. Pepperdoo also combed the Smart Spending message board for tips on economizing, and threw whatever she saved at vehicle loans. Their car and truck are now paid off and the "extra" $500 per month goes into savings.

"Room to breathe has no price tag," Pepperdoo wrote. "It's hard to make the changes at first, but once you do you'll see results."

The choices we make
Without that family loan, I still would have paid off my credit card debt, eventually. But I would likely have paid several hundred dollars in interest charges. I also would have fretted, a lot.

Now it's my job to continue to live below my means. Not only will that keep me out of debt, it will allow me to put aside some money. I'm building an emergency fund, and recently started a Roth IRA to augment the retirement benefits I accrued during 17 years of newspapering. And some day I'd like to have mortgage debt like everybody else.

My efforts are neither unique nor remarkable. Plenty of people out there have been standing up under much heavier debt loads. A reader named "Kalikala1980" is paying down a credit card balance, a car note and a grad-school loan. To get there sooner, the reader has cut back on all unnecessary spending, while still faithfully funding a retirement account.

"It's all about the choices you make and how much you want to be debt-free," Kalikala wrote.

So if you're working to pay down debt, keep at it. If you backslide, start over. And if you think you'll never get out of debt? Please try it anyway. Get personal-finance books from the library, contact the National Foundation for Credit Counseling,  read the MSN Money message boards for tips and support.

Kalikala phrased it quite nicely: "While paying off debt is painful, the freedom of being debt-free is indeed priceless."

As we say in New Jersey, I'll testify to that in court.

Comments

 

I'm currently paying down debt to become debt free thanks

its a big help to know I'm not the only one. Thanks for the encourgement!

Sometimes its hard doing without, but its well worth it.

I'm afraid I have to disagree with Draco that there is no such thing that requires a credit card. During my divorce, I was required to put down a retainer and give them the credit-card number so that when the retainer dipped below a certain point, they could bill my card.

If my car were to break down and I didn't have a lot of cash on me, I would need to pay with a credit card. I never do carry much cash, and my checkbook never leaves the house -- not that many companies these days would take a check just because I have an honest face.

Years ago when my father became suddenly, critically ill, I flew back to Jersey from Alaska and had to rent a car at the airport when I arrived. Because I had a credit card, I was able to do this. These days, you apparently can use a debit card but the auto rental company will put a block on a big chunk of funds, in case you don't return the car -- and not everyone has a whole lot of money in the bank. In my case, I was able to pay the credit card bill in full when it was due. Had I not been able to do that, would I still have flown home? Of course. It would have been worth a couple of months of interest charges to be there during an emergency.

I do agree with Draco in that we have been led to BELIEVE that we need credit cards for instant gratification. Too many people end up in debt because they're not willing to save for the new TV, the new clothes, or whatever.

It takes discipline and, maybe, some mind games -- one Smart Spending message board reader has taped her credit card behind an armoire that she cannot physically budge, because she is afraid she will spend too much money. But I do believe that everyone does need a credit card, plus maybe a sponsor to keep him from abusing it.

I agree if feels fabolous to be completely out of debt. I am aiming for the same goal and I am paying off the three credit cards that I owe. My goal is to have them at $0 balance to feel the inner peace. I can already visualize how that feels.

I currently have no cc debt. I used my cc to get me out of debt and they even made me money. I own 4 cars (all paid for). One is a porche. I own a gorgeous home.  My husband and I have over $300,000 in IRAs and 401k plus $70,000 in an emergency fund.  I have college funds set up for all three children.  I used my cc to buy into a business that I now make over $100,000 a year, and it all started with credit cards.  They are not all bad, you just have to know how to use them.

Sharon, don't be so pessimistic.  I'm not debt-free, but I'm working on it!!  I have parents I could borrow from; I choose not to because they've spent their lives helping me--it's time for them to enjoy their lives without having my hand out!  I work TWO full-time jobs; I live alone.  You can make this work.  Really sit down and map out your budget; even if you don't think so, there are many areas that can be cut back.  It's a matter of making that decision and STICKING to it.  Pessimism begets pessimism.  God has a way for us all; don't give up and you'll be among the posters here proclaiming the virtues of a debt-free lifestyle!

i agree with sharon try not being able to ask someone for money and paying rent, gas, car payment, car insurance, groceries, baby food(100$ a week easily),  diapers wipes clothes meds daycare health insurance co-pays medical bills electricity toletries this is truley hard when i work and my fiance works but still can't seem to be able to pay all of our bills i just feel bad for those like me who can't say hey mom or hey sis can i borrow a couple hundred dollars because my family also is struggling to pay their bills fiance sucks and all your tips i'm sorry but do not work for everyone i will struggle probably 4ever

Po Boy- My suggestion is to take a long hard look at what money you are spending and find ways to spend less. Write it all down for a week. Find ways to pare it down and apply every bit of savings to the debt.  One example is the 45 dollar menu to feed a family of 4-6 at the link below.  

www.hillbillyhousewife.com/40dollarmenu.htm

My husband and I have changed our habits one small item at a time. One change saved a few dollars a year, the next change saved a few dollars a month.  They all have added up in a big way and we are now reaping the rewards.  We're still finding painless ways to economize. There are loads of resources on the 'net to give you ideas.  

You have personal debt of 100000 and am thinking about debt settlement but you are a buissness owner will the debt relief affect your buisness in any way?

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